Background Pony #E31D
just ordinary angry sibling sex
3: DT is a child born to a previous marriage, and is only Spoiled’s daughter-in-law
4: Filthy and Spoiled got married and did the dirty very quickly after this, and Apple Bloom was born and her parents died/disappeared/whatever shortly before this flashback. This would put Apple Bloom just under a year older than DT, well within the “same age” description if spoken generally.
5: AJ’s parents aren’t gone yet in the flashback, merely offscreen, and they cannot run the farm for an unrelated reason.