@Background Pony #09CF
I think it’s worth mentioning that it’s actually a fetishist that got mad on behalf of someone with incontinence and the person with incontinence themselves was just upset that their image caused drama.
Take that how you will.
@Sprite
I know
@Lead Pie already pointed it out but I gotta agree. At times I
feel DL has a wholesome side… …but as I said, I can’t always tell even for myself so I could definitely be wrong. Makes me wonder if people who think they’re only into it in a wholesome way aren’t just like me and just haven’t yet realized.
@Princess Luna
“Diaper fascination” is synonymous with “diaper fetish”. “Fetish” isn’t strictly sexual. But being DL, myself, even I can’t reliably separate where the “sexual” line is even for myself when it comes to wearing or viewing art of diapers and diaperpones. Sometimes I can tell it is, sometimes I can’t tell it is for a bit then realize it is, and sometimes it seems not to be.
Though I can see the rationale with wanting a tag for adults in diapers unrelated to the fetish. It might also be trickier than you think since, heck, having an incontinent character who doesn’t have the fetish is pretty common subject material in the fetish fandom.
And I imagine it won’t be rare to find people in denial about having the fetish or it being sexual. “I just find I really like pics of adult mares in diapers. They’re cute and I like them and have a fixation on them it’s not like I have a fetish”.
It’s a bit like trying to tag images “brony” or “pony”.
Though you’re right there are some cases that this definitely applies to (Baby Cakes Pinkie), I think overwhelmingly you’ll find people in denial about the fetish. Like, maybe for a few dozen non-fetish pics, I’d expect hundreds or thousands of pics indistinguishable from fetish pics with people arguing the character is just incontinent or it’s non-fetish in some other way.
To put it one way, my condolences to anyone with body control issues, but diapers are a kind of underpants and drawing characters in any kind of underpants is going to carry certain connotations with few exceptions, and figuring out how to avoid those connotations in the picture itself will be tricky.
…so Tl;dr, there are some rare cases that are definitely not fetish (again like Baby Cakes Pie) but I’m worried how many cases you’ll get where the artwork is indistinguishable from ABDL style and they claim it’s not ABDL, or when it seems not ABDL in every way but actually is, and distinguishing is as easy as distinguishing when someone “just like ponies and pony art but isn’t a brony”.