So I’ve been talking with this Albanian girl on Whatsapp for about a week now…someone I’ve been introduced with through family and other relatives. So we’ve been getting to know each other and all that. Lately, she asked when I can visit her in Albania.
I told her that the likeliest time I can visit her is next July, which is when I when the janitors in the school system get a month-long break. However, this upsets her and is asking if I can visit her during Christmas break instead. She feels that next summer is too long.
We’re not engaged, unlike with the last girl where it happened nearly right away, but she wants the engagement to happen sooner than next summer…
This definitely makes me uncomfortable and I’ve let my mom know this. The girl and my mom are basically arguing that the relationship “will get cold” if I “wait too long”, but this is moving too fast. You can’t rush relationships. If time and distance hurts the relationship, it wasn’t meant to be. If however the relationship is strong even with time and distance, it was meant to be.
But of course, this is Albania…where marriage is something you have to do as soon as possible…
Why did I have to be born under such a weird culture?