Alright guys, real talk. My mom is stuck in a relationship with a very evil, controlling man. He showed his true colors after mom got in a serious car accident by never even once showing up to visit at the hospital or even sending flowers. He never even tried to help her with chores around the house while she was in the hospital, he was more concerned about the car than my mom. He then demonizes me calling me a lazy leaching bum when in fact I am the only one who has helped her, even taking time off from work to do her errands. This man keeps her in control by keeping her self-esteem down by telling her she is too old and no one else wants her and that he doesn’t even want her but he will keep her around as long as he does everything he says, including giving him access to her bank account and even letting him have full control of her car insurance and legal documents.
My mom is so desperate for a husband that even though she knows this man has no intention of marrying her, she still keeps him around as a “friend” so she can pretend she is married. My mom wants love desperately, so desperately that she willing to be emotionally abused and controlled. My mom deserves better, much better, but she has such low self-esteem she doesn’t believe she deserves better and because of that settles for this awful man when it’s quite clear she’s not happy with him. This bastard has her convinced I’m a demon and has instructed her not to listen to me since, I don’t know, I was actually there at her bedside in the hospital while he made himself scarce then yelled at her while she was in the ICU with serious injuries demanding to know where her car was so I must be a demon.
She won’t listen to me but I am trying to help her snap out of it and realize the awful situation she is in. I want her to get some friends, which he forbids, and have them build up her self-esteem and then introduce her to some good men and let her know she does not have to settle for this pile of trash.
Any ideas how I can help mom find a real man?