Sowohl als auch. Both. And of course you can recognize the bots quite quickly by the way you “talk” to them in the chat. Feels like a funny Turing test. ;-)
But in my opinion there are A.) the bots, B.) the “hired” ones and C.) the really (desperately?) interested single moms (at this point here a statement on my part that I respect these women as well as have complete understanding for their situation - I was quasi in this position myself; long story)
I mean, please don’t get me wrong. I’ve been on the internet for over 25 years. Bots and hired ones can’t even get a tired smile out of me. What worries and grieves me are really these women who are obviously getting their hopes up (which I really give NO ONE based on my profile; a mix of nerd/work/moments).
But neither am I willing to back down, nor change anything about who or what I am. I just can’t understand how people seem to try to hit on you about your social profile. What kind of relationship is supposed to come out of that? Uch… I think I’m just too old. All I want is friendship and the freedom to express myself. If this keeps up, I’m going to raise the asexual flag. Not because I’m “really” asexual. But I have absolutely no interest in any social contact over the internet beyond the mundane and common friendship. Heck, some of my best friends I have never seen, but we have a strong bond nevertheless.
But, and this is my unpopular opinion: if I now have to justify myself as a man (as a human being) for not being a mere piece of meat just because I have an online account, then in my opinion there is something ENTIRELY wrong with the internet. And that has nothing to do with ME being old. It has something to do with OTHERS obviously having a problem with social media. ’Tschuldigung. :-/