I just witnessed one of the most pathetic and sad things I have ever seen. A few minutes ago, my stepfather just finished an hour’s worth of effort to scrape my drunk mother off of the floor so she could use the bathroom. My mother has trouble walking, and uses a wheelchair because she broke her leg a few years ago when they found bone cancer in her ankle. Combine that with her having to be on oxygen 24/7 due to COPD from decades of smoking, and she is in one of the worst health conditions I have ever seen a person be in. But she still smokes and now she’s taken to drinking rum nightly, to the point of nearly blacking out. That is why she fell getting off her bed tonight, because she was simply too drunk to make it to her wheelchair.
So my stepfather grunted and strained to lift her up and onto the toilet, yelling at her to “Get on the fucking seat!” and scolding her with the statement “I am so fucking angry right now and I have something to tell you tomorrow that you’re not going to like.” So she responded, “Why not tell me now?” So he sternly tells her that he’s cutting off her rum supply for a week, that it’s going in the trunk of his car, and that she can “jones” for a week, that he doesn’t care anymore if she complains about it.
Eventually she gets seated and everything, then he had to lift her off the seat and plop her back in her chair so she could get back into bed for the night. She’s actually still awake right now, and I’m thinking of going in there and telling her that I fully agree with my stepdad, that her alcoholism is endangering her safety, but I won’t. I’m tired of it. I’m tired of dealing with her falling because she’s drunk. The last time, when it was her visiting me at my apartment, I called 911 and got the firefighters to help her, because I wasn’t strong enough to lift her myself.
I am fucking sick of my mother using her condition to drink. She expects everyone to feel sorry for her and expects to be able to get away with shit like that and blame it on other people. This is the end of it. I sat and refused to help her tonight, and I will continue to do so in the future if it’s her who puts herself in that position.
You people want to know how fucked up my home life is? There you go.